5 easy tips to take control over your emotions instantly
Studies have shown that EQ (Emotional Intelligence) is more important than IQ. High EQ leads to healthy relationships with others. Your emotional intelligence and social intelligence are much greater determinants of the success you will achieve in life. People who are able to pay the price now and delay the rewards are much likely to succeed in life. For instance, the choices that we make every day about food, exercise, and self-improvement. Enough reasons to take control over your emotions.
If you are a slave to your emotions, your emotions dictate your life and your decisions. Your mood can change instantly, according to what happens to you. You will continue to suffer if you don’t immediately control your emotions. In this article, I will share my five easy tips on how to deal with your emotions.
After years dealing with my emotions, I have learned my lessons;
As a child, I didn’t know how to deal with my emotions. I always had really strong emotions. I think learning to deal with your emotions is really essential for a balanced life. I was always reactive and took my decisions when I was emotional. My emotions were always powerful and controlled me. Afterward, I always suffered because of my reactions to the circumstances. I felt bad and powerless. Then I realized that;
1. Emotions come and go. They are temporary. A healthy way to deal with your emotions. When you have emotional triggers, just sit with your emotions and feel it and embrace it fully. Take a deep breath a few times.
2. You can also go for a walk, listen to music, write them down, meditate or talk to your friend. But DON’T react to your emotions.
Reacting to your emotional triggers can be a mistake. You will always regret it later.
Don’t control your emotions but your behavior
Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
Some people just ignore their emotions. What you resist persists. Like happiness and joy, our other emotions of anger and jealousy are important for our emotional well-being.
3. Change your response. No matter your circumstances you always have a choice to react differently. Emotions are there for a reason. They are messages from you to you. Instead of controlling your emotions, control your behavior. (Shouting, hitting, hurting, trying to control the circumstances and people are all behaviors.)
A quote that really helped me
There was a moment in my life that I asked myself are these reactions to my emotions serving me or not? I discovered that by reacting a certain way I gave all my energy and power away. It was a strong habit now because I didn’t know better. I started to think before my reactions. I started to break my pattern each time I dealt with my emotions. It was not easy in the beginning. I took baby steps and each time I changed my approach. After doing this a few times I felt much better about myself. I felt more confident and responsible for my thinking and reactions. This had an enormous impact on my life and happiness. I discovered an amazing quote that also really helped me in my emotional journey. I would like to share it with you and really hope that it also will help you.
“You will continue to suffer
If you have an emotional reaction
To everything that is said to you.
True power is sitting back and
Observing everything with logic.
True power is restraint. If words
Control you that means everyone else can control you
Breathe and allow things to pass.”
If you could have one take away from my article it would be that when you have strong negative emotions stop and ask yourself:
5. Am I Okay right now? Am I breathing right now? Then take a deep breath and think how you want to react.
Watch also the video below if you want really make a real change.