Have you ever had the feeling that you was talking and nobody listened? You wanted to share something meaningful and express yourself. I have struggled a lot of times and I know how it feels. That’s the reason I did some reading and research to help you.
Your listener’s brain is always full of his or her own thoughts, worries, and enthusiasm. If you need information from others, let people have their say first. Whenever you are discussing emotionally charged matters, let the speaker finish completely before you jump in. Count to ten if you must. It will seem like an eternity, but letting others finish is the only way he or she will hear you when it’s your turn. People who listen are trusted more than those who grab the talking stick and barge straight into chatter. Trust is the grease of changing minds and listening is the key. Listening shows respect and empathy for other people. Great leaders, coaches, and facilitators are also great listeners.
Habit’s why people don’t listen to us.
There are a few habits that we need to move away from if we want people to listen to us. First Gossip. Speaking ill of somebody who’s not present. We know perfectly well the person gossiping, five minutes later will be gossiping about us. Second, judging. It’s very hard to listen to somebody if you know that you’re being judged. Third, negativity. It’s very hard to listen to somebody who is only negative all the time. Fourth, complaining. We complain about everything, the weather, sport, politics. Final, lying. We don’t want to listen to people we know are lying to us.
Habits why people will listen to us.
There are some good habits that people instantly will listen to you. (Julian Treasure) Honesty: be clear and straight to people (not very honest you look ugly this morning), Authenticity: be yourself, Integrity: be your word, and Love: wish people well. A great quote from When you talk you only repeating what you already know. But if you listen, you may learn something new.